Wednesday, August 20, 2008

Now back to our regularly scheduled programming...

Question of the day:

In all of our attempts to be unique and brand-new, do people still adhere to the rules of which side each family sits on, or do we just let people sit anywhere?

25 comments:

Anonymous said...

I didn't have anyone to seat my guess . Some tried to follow the rules and some didn't

Anonymous said...

I think where people sit is minor. As a bride, you have bigger and better things to worry about. As long as your intermediate family is sitting on the right side than I would not worry about it.

mrsstinks said...

i say sit where there is a seat as long as the immediate family sits in the right section.

Anonymous said...

I don't any reason to stick to this tradition. If the sides mix you may have a better chance of the families getting to know each other.

Anonymous said...

When I got hitched the coordinator let people know bride side and groom side but then was sure to say - sit where you feel comfortable. I don't really care but some people are still formal and ask.

TamElb said...

I agree w/mrsstinks... you can try to ensure that the immediate family is "properly" placed and go from there. In my case, we had immediate family in the "proper spot" but even then some of my semi-immediate was on my hubbys side. I had more folks then him... so do what'cha gotta do!

DAVESGIRL said...

I honestly didn't care where anyone sat as long as our immediate family were in the front row. My family is huge while D's family consisted of about 20 total. I don't like uneven numbers so it was fine if they mixed things up.

Anonymous said...

I think with the exception of maybe parents of the bride and groom people can sit wherever they want. Our wedding was only about 40 guests, we didnt have sides, and people just sat where they wanted.

Anonymous said...

I didn't mind where people sat. I did notice that people were walking around a bit too much. The video shows a bit much. I don't know if people sat themselves or others told them where to sit.

mrssmith08

Anonymous said...

our immediate families sat in the first and second rows and others sat anywhere they wanted to sit.
our families could have mixed up and i wouldn't have minded at all, cos then we would have had to opportunity to get to know each other better

Anonymous said...

I think for the most part people sit where they want with who they want b/c you know how we can get everybody is related in some way shape fashion or form. So only as you dnt walk in when the ceremony begins sit where you please...chantay_wa

Anonymous said...

I think people assumed this was the case at my wedding, because I do remember seeing everyone and that it did look like there was a bride's side vs a grooms side. But I did not have anyone seating folks. I honestly didn't care.

Unknown said...

My guest sat where they wanted. I had reserved seating for a select few. My family and the groom's family were mixed together and some commented later that they enjoyed talking to new people.

Anonymous said...

Not that I particularly cared, but we did have ushers seat people on the "bride's" side and the "groom's" side. I almost toyed with the idea of not having sides. I feel so bad when you go to a wedding and there are 50-11 people on the bride's side and like 12 on the groom's side. Most of C's family is local, so I knew that wouldn't be the case with us, thankfully.

Netta said...

I never understood that tradition anyway..if the couple is supposed to be joining together to create a family why seperate into different sides.. I would just make sure the sides are even and go with that

Tamara said...

Nah, I would just have the usher seat them just like they be doing in church (fill from front to back, but ensuring the immediate fam have their spots in the front row), lol. You know how the church URSHER board be doing it, lol.

Anonymous said...

because we are an IR couple...i definitely didn't want the "segregation" look for my guests, so we avoided all of this by having the tables bunched together on one side and the aisle on the other (my ceremony and reception were in the same room)...plus i wanted people to feel comfortable sit where they wanted to...

Anonymous said...

People didn't sit at my wedding, except for his parents, my grandfather and my mother. Everyone else stood. And at the reception I had both sides intermingled.

Anonymous said...

I dont think it matters where people sit, although I haven't married yet...lol, but I think in the case where the families appear to be seperated is only because naturally people will sit with whom they are familiar with!!
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Anonymous said...

We had ushers seating our guest and had a bride and groom side. Not that they would've been removed from the wedding if they didn't sit on the "right" side but people usually tend to sit with the ones they know so we just wanted everyone to be comfortable. At the reception we did a little mixing of tables and sides and once the ceremony was over and everyone mingled it was one big party

Anonymous said...

fiFrankly, I am not one who favors family of the bride on one side and of the groom on another. Not to be different, but since the marriage signifies the union of family, I believe it should be mixed seating. People naturally sit with whom they know, but I wouldn't break up the guests.

Anonymous said...

For me I would folksto be comfortable so seating would not be an issue for me, I think the only thiong I would prolly do is reserve seating for the immediate family and everybody else have at it!!!

Anonymous said...

We are doing away with this "tradition" because we don't want a spirit of division...we will become one that day and we would love for those that we love to grow closer and view one another as family

Anonymous said...

For the actual ceremony we did the brides side/groom side. However for the reception we made sure to mix it up. We wanted those who'd never met to talk amongst themselves.

Chef GaNeane - The Femme Foodie said...

Alisha I so agree with what you said! I am specifically having an anointing prayer after my entrance to get everyone on one accord...and I think the besides my parents (his are deceased) everyone should sit where they want, actually specifically MIX and MINGLE