MochaWifey's Random Thoughts

MW Random Thought #4 - I ain't stuttin you.

Maybe I was a heffa....maybe I was being a jerk...or maybe I was just staying true to my word.

My wedding invitation read, and I quote,
"Ceremony will begin promptly at 4." and we did. Sorry to the bridesmaid who missed the whole thing, but that direction went for guests AND participants.

Just because you're a briesmaid or a groomsman, my dear aunt Sally, the coordinator, or WHATEVER you are, please don't believe that I will halt my day to await your grand arrival. As my grandmother would say, "I ain't stuttin you"....See you at the reception boo.

When Someone Tells You Who they are....

Believe them!!!

An anonymous friend recounted a prime example of why you should always follow that tidbit of Maya Angelou wisdom... names have been changed to protect the questionable...

"When I first got engaged Charelle was at everything. She was there at the engagement party. She was asking me what the bridesmaids were going to wear. She was in it with me it seemed."

MochaWifey: What happened?

"She just started pulling back. I guess I should have just let her, but I was holding on to that beginning attitude she had and believing that if I made adjustments and accomodations, she would be alright."

MochaWifey: What do you mean, adjustments and accomodations? What kind of "pulling back" are you talking about?

"When things started coming up, bridesmaid fittings and rehearsals, etc, she started pouring out all these reasons why she couldn't do it. She told me she couldn't afford the dress, so I offered to put some of the money down for her. Then it was she didn't have a babysitter, so I was considering allowing her to bring her kids to my adult reception. I was doing everything to make a way for her to be a part of my day, but she wasn't putting up half the effort."

MochaWifey: What do you regret the most about this experience?

"Just that I didn't take her for what she was showing me. Everyone has issues that come up, and I tried to be a good bride and friend, but when I look back...she was on some BS and I should have just let her excuse herself when she tried to. She wound up being one of my biggest headaches during my wedding. She complained about everything, missed important dates, and had constant run-ins with my other bridesmaids.

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MochaWifey's Random Thought #2
When someone tells you who they are...believe them. If someone is giving you chance after chance to dismiss them, please give them their pink slip.

Bridesmaidzilla

Simply put...a bridesmaidzilla is a bad bridesmaid. We've all seen her.  She's either complained about the color or price of her dress or she's mad about having to take part in the bridal shower. She hasn't paid the deposit for the dress and she's pissed that SHE has to pay for the alterations.

Just when I heard it all, I ran across the following situation over at the ChocolateBrides.Com messageboard.

Ladies I have yet to have a smooth ride with these bridesmaids. I have a bridesmaid who refuses to wear a bra. She wears a 36DD and thinks that she doesn't need to wear a bra in the wedding. In a second I am about to go down to two bridesmaids since I already got rid of one. I just wonder if the pics would look terrible with only 2 bridesmaids and 3 grooms men. Please help!!!

Check out some of the responses!

My stance would be that if she won't wear a bra she won't be in the wedding. Your pix will look much better with 3 groomsmen and 2 bridesmaids than they will with one of your bridesmaids boobs out of control. I don't advocate people making bridesmaids change things that are inherent to their looks and beliefs but a bra is a simple foundation garment that needs to be worn by women with larger busts in strapless dresses. In fact for modesty's sake and to prevent nipples poking through in pix I would probably ask even smaller busted women to wear bras.

 - bajanempress

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Ole girl needs to strap those badboys down. IF she wants to look crazy, she can do that on her time and her time (read: in the wedding audience, not in the bridal party) She is relatively 'small' from a busty babe's point of view. She can get some support relatively inexpensively. She just wants to be extra. 

Sincerely,

LoveCalls
President of the BTC
(42 J)

P.S. www.biggerbras.com is her friend
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I'm curious to know what is her reason for not wanting to wear a bra? Is it that she does not wear one on a regular basis? Anywho, I too have large breast (42DD) and under no circumstance will I go anywhere without a bra. Just today I needed to run to the car to get something from the trunk and although my car is parked directly in front of my house.....I refused to go because I didn't have the boys strapped down. No matter what type of dress you have in the wedding, a person of her breast size needs a bra...bottom line. I just purchased the best strapless bra from JC Penny on sale for $16.99 regulary, $28.99. So, if she's complaining about not being able to find one....take her there. OR like beezlilmama said....Lane Bryant.

 - Whiteross
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Anything cup size that says double, you need a bra plain and simple. You need a bra when you are a single letter cup. -Zetadream4
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UGH! She really needs to stop fooling herself....I dont care if your boobs look like two fried eggs..you need a BRA! Nothing worse than nips all showing and peeking through -Mocha_Newlywed

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The pictures will NOT look bad with an odd number of BP members, so don't worry. There more than enough poses to handle that. Your real issue is BM with the big titays, STAND YOUR GROUND, I was a 36DD in two weddings and now I am a 38DDD in a wedding, she needs a bra. Nothing looks worse than a when the top of a dress is weighted down due to lack of support, every can see it. She can't find a bra....buy her one Lane Brynt has the BEST strapless bras for the well endowed ladies, I have 2 different types of SB from there so she has no excuse.

-beezlilmama

Preserve your friendship. Don't be a bridesmaidzilla.